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officialvarrictethras:

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Varric Tethras, Aysunn Adaar, and fuckyeahvarric's Cecilia Hawke

Three pairs of feet tangle beneath the sheets, three sets of hands grope for another in the semi darkness, and three hearts beat in harmony — a rhythm accompanied by their deep, even breathing and the yawns and sighs of a contented trio.

officialvarrictethras:

Fullsize view (nsfw)

Varric Tethras, Aysunn Adaar, and fuckyeahvarric's Cecilia Hawke

Three pairs of feet tangle beneath the sheets, three sets of hands grope for another in the semi darkness, and three hearts beat in harmony — a rhythm accompanied by their deep, even breathing and the yawns and sighs of a contented trio.

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polynotes:

I want gay people to have health insurance that covers their partners. And I want poly people to have health insurance that covers all their partners. But more than either of those things I just want everyone to have access to affordable quality health care.

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http://randomthoughtsoutlouder.tumblr.com/post/98082405930/it-may-be-small-minded-of-me-but-i-really-cant

polynotes:

randomthoughtsoutlouder:

It may be small minded of me, but I really can’t wrap my mind around the idea of open relationships and polyamory. It’s baffling to me. It feels to me like an unneccesary complication (in one hand, I guess it can be construed as a simplification. You can’t commit to one person so you might as well agree that you can both have multiple pertners). Not that I’m saying they shouldn’t do it. Just why bother being in a relationship. Why not just be friends who have sex. Or date many many people. I probably am missing something here.

You seem pretty genuine about kind of just not getting it, and I appreciate that. I kind of don’t get people who want to be monogamous or in closed relationships. Or people who are strictly straight or gay. Or morning people.

I think we all need to get better at accepting that the validly of other people’s experiences and preferences doesn’t depend on our ability to imagine feeling the same way. But it is worthwhile to try to understand where other people are coming from.

Most people who are poly don’t think of it as not committing to one person, but as committing to more than person. You’re equating commitment to sexual exclusivity. To me, commitment is more about paying attention to someone, taking care of them, and sticking with them through the rough spots.

If all that commitment means to you is that your partner isn’t having sex with anyone else, I feel really bad for everything you’re missing out on.

Poly and open relationships can be more complicated and time-consuming to manage, but they don’t have to be. But the reason people to do it anyway is that the good stuff is worth it. Being in a relationship at all is kind of more complicated than being single. Similarly, for a lot of people, the good stuff is worth it.

I think the distinction between being friends who have sex and being in a relationship can be kind of blurry. And I generally think we ought to take our friendships more seriously and approach those relationships with some intention and care.

But I call my girlfriend my girlfriend because I like going on trips with her occasionally, and introducing her to my parents, and having emotional depth to our relationship, and going out alone together, and that generally seems to make girlfriend a more appropriate word.

Here’s another, different answer: I’m totally in love with a brilliant, ambitious, beautiful woman. She happens to have a husband and kid. I think it’s easier and more fun to just date her anyway, and to be friends with her awesome family, than to pass on the very enjoyable sex, make-outs, and emotional intimacy.

Amazing response. Thank you, it was really well written!

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A friendly reminder… <3

polylove-girls-blog:

I think, for some, it’s really important to remember that one does not have to be in multiple relationships to be polyamorous. It can be a personal philosophy to keep the option of having more than one romantic relationship open, to believing that love can be shared with any amount of people. 

Be happy with who you are, there is nothing wrong with being single and polyamorous.

:)

Reblogging for newer followers!

Filed under polyamory nonmonogamy

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The polyamorous possibility is what I call the mind-set that acknowledges the potential to love multiple people at the same time, or the awareness of polyamory as a relationship option. Once it has occurred to someone that openly conducted, multiple-partner relationships are possible and can be managed in an ethical manner, they can never unthink that idea. They have become aware of the polyamorous possibility and, regardless of whether they consider polyamory themselves or simply reject it out of hand, they can never again be unaware of consensual nonmonogamy as an option.
Elisabeth Sheff, The Polyamorists Next Door (via theplaintruthofit)